If you have waited a long time to hear from your ex boyfriend there are several things you can do. You might not have any text messages or emails from him so you might try sending him a note or two and see what the response is. You might be feeling blue and think that your ex has moved on without you but if you send a message he might get the impression that you still care.
Boys and men take breakups differently and he might completely ignore you because they are taught early to feel no pain or show emotions because it’s considered a sign of weakness. In fact your ex-boyfriend is probably feeling the same as you are but doesn’t want to show it to anyone not even you. It’s possible to get him back if you take small steps and send him messages about how you really feel might make him feel better.
A man will use anger as a defense mechanism and he simply can’t communicate in the verbal way that a woman expects. Anything you say that’s negative towards him is seen as an attack on his manhood and his need to provide for you. If any of these discussions came up prior to your breakup this might be the main reason that you split up. Men aren’t able to discuss their emotions easily and they will turn to anger or a hateful response to you as a type of protection.
To get him to call you need to send a massage, letter, or email and tell him that you really do care about him and that his feelings matter. He’ll never discuss his deep emotions with his make friends but if he’s going to open up you’re the one that can do it. A man may take time before he’s able to respond to you because the anger he feels really does away with any other emotions he might have. He may be dwelling on his anger towards you and that’s why he hasn’t called. He might be unable to pick up the phone to show you that he still cares because he just doesn’t know how.
A man fears that his friends may find out and he’ll be deemed weak by them. He may still love you but his friends are probably telling him to forget about you and find someone else. His emotions will dictate how he responds. He’ll be more responsive if you make the first move and open up the channels of communication. Don’t be too quick to do this you need to give him time to get over his anger phase which can last quite a while. The best thing is to take this slow and if your messages are generating a response you could ask him out somewhere to talk such as for coffee but be sure it’s just you and him and no friends as this can easily cause a permanent breakup.
Another approach is to call if you still have some of his belongings and just ask if he would like to talk about your relationship. Just be prepared for some anger towards you if he’s still in that phase and if he hi you’ll need to give it more time. You might want to call on special occasions such as his birthday or a holiday just to talk which might open up more communication.
Whatever you do be sure to take it slow and understand the anger mechanism that men have do to how they are raised. Men aren’t allowed to show real feelings and it can be extremely difficult to show them even to people that a man really cares about. Once time has passed open up the communication and go slowly. If you exhaust all avenues and there doesn’t seem to be any real response then it might be time to move on.